Wedding Roles & Responsibilities: Who Does What?

Bride and Groom

The groom and bride’s main obligation is to be married obviously there are a myriad of decision-making tasks to take into consideration before making. It is recommended that the bride and the groom collaborate on these choices and share the burden and to ensure each is happy with the wedding plans. A brief list of the basics:

  • Set budget
  • Pick a date, dress and venue for wedding ceremony
  • Meet with the ceremony officiant to discuss the details
  • Coordinate invites, flowers, photographer, etc.
  • Decide wedding cards design.
  • Look for wedding bands (each is responsible for the other’s)
  • Wedding vows can be written If they wish to
  • Write thank-you notes to all gifts.

Alongside their shared responsibility as a couple, the bride and the groom usually handle certain aspects on their own, for example, each one making sure that their families have an official guest list.

The bride picks her honor attendant and bridesmaids. She organizes and hosts the wedding luncheon and presents her attendants with thank-you gifts. She also purchases gifts for the bridesmaids.

The groom picks his groomsmen and best men and chooses their outfits. He buys thank you presents for the attendants as well as on behalf of the bride. He also arranges and covers the marriage certificate and officiant’s fee. He also holds the hotel room block for guests who are not local.

Bride’s Parents

The past was when parents of the bride’s parents had the privilege of paying the cost for the majority of wedding costs. Nowadays, the cost is likely to be shared between wedding couple’s parents, bride’s parents, and the couple themselves However, there are certain obligations that bride’s parents are responsible for.

Traditionally , they host the first engagement reception. They aid the bride in preparing the guest list, as well as provide assistance (and moral help!) in preparing the wedding. The bride’s mother picks her wedding dress and informs the mother of the groom so that they complement one the other.

The father of the bride’s husband is fitted for formal wear. When the time comes for the ceremony the groom will take her to the venue for the ceremony and then walks through an aisle (perhaps with her mother on her other side). He’s the last one left to depart the wedding reception after saying goodbye to guests and clearing outstanding charges to the caterer bandleader , coat-check the parking attendants, restrooms and restrooms.

Groom’s Parents

Typically, the groom’s parents call the bride’s parents following the wedding. They can throw an engagement celebration (after their parents have done so). They will provide the guests with a list to the couple, hoping to stick to an agreed number. They confer with the parents of the bride’s bride on what to wear. They cook the rehearsal meal on the night prior to the wedding and might contribute to wedding costs.

Maid of Honor

In the midst of all her bridal party, the bride rely the most upon her maid of honour. The traditional Maid of Honor is usually the bride’s closest friend or sister. In case you’re wondering, a married honor attendant is known as matron of honor but it’s become a thorn in the current popular vernacular.

Prior to the wedding ceremony, the duties of the maid of honor include coordinating bridal party’s activities like arranging fittings for dresses and coordinating the bachelorette and bridal shower. She also assists the groom and bride with the preparation of any errands or chores such as sending invitations, and keeping a record of the gifts.

On the day of the wedding, the maid of honor assists the bride dress, and accompany her to the wedding ceremony. They sign the marriage certificate as the bride’s witness. She organizes her veil and dress in the processional and the recessional and then holds her bouquet on the altar. The reception is where she performs dance along with the groomsman and arranges the bridesmaids to take formal photos. When the couple departs to honeymoon, she assists the bride to change her dress, and ensures that her wedding dress and bouquet remain in good order until she returns.


You can select the number of bridesmaids as you want to include at your wedding (although generally , 12 is the maximum). Bridesmaids may be married or single and at any age, however girls between 8 and 16 become junior bridesmaids and are given the responsibilities of junior bridesmaids.

The primary role of a bridesmaid’s job is to aid the maid of honor in the planning of her wedding and to assist the bride when required. Your bridesmaids will assist you with things like making invitations, and they will also help you plan the bachelorette and shower parties (and help with the costs). The maid/matron-of-honor and all bridesmaids are responsible for their own dress along with accommodation and transportation for those who make the trip from a different location.

Naturally, the bridesmaids will participate in the processional as well as the in the recessional. In dinner, they usually socialize and dance with the groomsmen as well as other guests of note.

Junior Bridesmaid

A girl aged between 9 to 13 is usually described as the junior bridesmaid. On the day of the wedding the bridesmaids wear dresses that is typically more appropriate for her age than the gowns worn by the bridesmaids of adulthood and in the same hue and material.

She doesn’t attend the bachelor/bachelorette party nor is she held to the same financial obligations as the bridesmaids (though her parents will be).

Flower Girl

The flower girl usually falls between four and eight, based on the level of maturity. During the procession she will walk in front of the bride and scatters flower petals along the way or carrying a lovely arrangement or basket. She must also be included in the rehearsal for the wedding so she feels comfortable in her part. Parents are required to provide her with her wedding attire and also arrange her transportation.

They are required to purchase their outfit in addition to being invited at the dinner rehearsal.

Best Man

As the maid of honor for the wedding, the ideal man is the groom’s primary source of encouragement. Most often, he’s the groom’s best friend, brother or cousin and could be married or not.

The main job of the best man prior to the wedding is to plan the bachelor celebration. He assists with the groomsmen’s formal attire fitting, selects the groom’s dress before the wedding ceremony, organizes the toasts during the rehearsal and makes honeymoon travel plans the day prior to.

When the time comes for the ceremony the best man is responsible for making sure the groom arrives at the venue in time. He takes the bride’s wedding ring and also holds the officiant’s fees until the ceremony is over, and then signs the marriage certificate for the groom’s witnesses. After the ceremony, he arranges for the groomsmen to take formal photos and dancing with the maids of honor and organizes toasts at the reception. Then, he ensures that the car for the departure is in place for the couple’s luggage. After the wedding the groom is able to see that all formal wear rented was returned.


The groomsmen (sometimes called ushers) are tasked with a few tasks prior to the wedding. Most importantly, they assist the groom organize and host the bachelor celebration (oh and also, they dress for a stunning wedding tuxedo). Naturally, they must frequently check in together with their groomsman and top man to determine if they are able to handle other duties.

On the day of the wedding the groomsmen are expected to arrive early to the wedding site, prepared to greet (and possibly sit) guests. They will be part of the ceremony, and should be present at the reception for the duration.

They are responsible for their own clothing and are responsible for fitting and getting their clothes from the formalwear shops. In addition, they are responsible for their own travel and accommodation costs.

Junior Groomsman

The male counterpart of the junior bridesmaid is called a junior groomsman , or junior usher (he wears an edgy suit). These “tweens” neither attend the bachelor/bachelorette party nor are they held to the same financial obligations (though their parents will be).

Ring Bearer

The ring bearer is typically an adult male who is carrying the rings of marriage on a satin cushion (or the symbolic rings; the actual rings held by honor attendants) along the aisle. The maid of honour and the best man pick the appropriate rings from the pillow (you might want to secure them with an attached ribbon to ensure their safekeeping) and present them to bridesmaids and the groom. As with the flower girl the rings bearer”s parents will pay for his outfit and organize the transportation.

Further Read : Wedding Planning Tips

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